After immigrating to the United States, cultural differences between China and the U.S. can easily lead to awkward or embarrassing situations. WorldWay U.S. immigration experts advise that when immigrating to the U.S., it is essential to learn about American customs in advance and be mindful of daily behaviors to better integrate into American life.
Do not use "sorry" instead of "Excuse me"
Both "I am sorry" and "Excuse me" can mean "apology" or "I'm sorry," but "I am sorry" carries a heavier tone, implying an admission of fault or error. If you use "sorry" politely to ask someone to move aside, it may leave them feeling confused.
Do not dance with the same sex
Dancing with someone of the same sex is generally considered a social faux pas in the U.S. People dancing with the same sex will likely be met with disapproving looks or be assumed to be homosexual. Therefore, even if you cannot find a partner of the opposite sex, you should never dance with someone of the same sex.
Do not take off your shoes in front of others
In the U.S., taking off your shoes or being barefoot in front of others is seen as uncivilized and lacking etiquette. Shoes should only be removed in the bedroom or between intimate partners. If a woman takes off her shoes in front of a man, it implies "do whatever you want." If a man takes off his shoes, he will be looked down upon as if he were a barefoot savage in the jungle. It is also impolite for either gender to pull down socks or adjust garters in front of others. If your shoelaces come undone, you should step away to a private area to tie them.
Do not hitchhike casually
When traveling in the U.S., you should never hitchhike casually due to public safety concerns. Cases of robbery or assault resulting from hitchhiking are common in the U.S. Some criminals may proactively stop their cars when they see a woman walking on the road and offer a ride. Mistaking this for kindness is like a lamb walking into a tiger's den. In such situations, it is best to politely decline and avoid further conversation.
Furthermore, do not easily agree to pick up hitchhikers, as some criminals, including young women, specifically wait to hitch rides to threaten or defraud drivers once inside the vehicle.
Modesty is not a virtue
While Chinese people view modesty as a virtue, Americans often equate excessive humility with hypocrisy. If someone who speaks fluent English claims their English is poor and then proceeds to speak fluently, Americans will perceive them as a liar who is being insincere or pretentious. Therefore, when interacting with Americans, you should confidently state your abilities; be direct and honest. There is no need to be overly modest, as it may have the opposite effect.
Greeting strangers
When we encounter people walking toward us on the street, in elevators, or in hallways, it is customary for Americans to acknowledge them with eye contact. You should not immediately look away or turn your face aside to pretend you do not see them, as this is only done to people you dislike or look down upon.
When Americans are strolling down the street in the morning, they are accustomed to saying "Good morning" to those they pass. Of course, on crowded streets, you do not need to make eye contact or greet everyone you pass.
Do not talk only about topics you are familiar with
When attending an American party, avoid talking only about topics you are most interested in or skilled at. Discussing topics that only you are familiar with will make others feel uncomfortable and create resentment. Showing off by talking about personal business matters will also make others perceive you as narrow-minded, knowing nothing outside your own field. During conversation, you should look for topics of mutual interest. Doctors can talk about literature, scientists can discuss music, and educators can share travel experiences, keeping the atmosphere of the party relaxed. In the U.S., the topic of "suicide" is unwelcome and should be avoided whenever and wherever possible.
Do not address teachers casually
The safest way to address a teacher at school is "Professor." If you know the teacher's last name, you can also address them as Professor [Name], but do not call a teacher "Sir," especially a female teacher, as they may take offense. Also, do not address teachers by their first names unless they have explicitly told you to do so.
Do not mark up books casually
There are many assignments when studying in the U.S., often for every class. Some teachers may tell you the schedule and assignments for the entire semester at the beginning, while others may announce them during class. If you know which textbooks are required when selecting courses, you can buy them at the bookstore first, but keep the receipt and ask the clerk if returns are allowed. Teachers may change materials after classes begin, and students may decide to drop a course if they find it too easy, too difficult, or too boring. Used books cannot be returned, so do not write your name, underline, or make any marks in your books at the beginning.
Do not call Black people "Negro"
"Negro" is an English term for "Black person," specifically referring to those sold into slavery in the U.S. from Africa. Therefore, you must never call a Black person "Negro" in the U.S., whether talking to white people or, even more importantly, to Black people themselves. Otherwise, they will feel you are showing contempt. When referring to Black people, it is best to use the word "Black," which is a term they accept openly.
Do not stick out your tongue in front of others
Americans consider sticking out your tongue in front of others to be both unsightly and impolite. It gives an impression of vulgarity or crudeness and can even be interpreted as looking down on someone. While children may stick out their tongues when they make a mistake, appearing innocent and cute, adults should never do this.
Do not smile casually
A smile can bring friendship, but in certain situations, a smile often represents a promise or agreement. Women, in particular, should avoid smiling without reason, as an ambiguous smile can sometimes be mistaken for "mockery" or "tacit consent," leading to significant misunderstandings.
Do not give gifts indiscriminately
Gift-giving must be meaningful. For example, you can give a gift for a friend's birthday or a colleague's wedding to express your well wishes. However, you should not give gifts too frequently, as the recipient will not only fail to appreciate it but may also suspect you have ulterior motives. When you are unsure what gift is appropriate, fresh flowers are always a suitable choice for visiting someone or attending a banquet. Perfume and whiskey are also generally well-received.
Do not pay for others
It is a Chinese habit for friends to compete to pay for tickets or other expenses when going out together. However, doing this with Americans will not earn their gratitude. This behavior makes Americans feel as though they owe a social debt, which makes them uncomfortable. When Americans go out together, they always pay their own way, including for transportation, meals, and tips.
Not responding to invitations
A common social etiquette mistake that Chinese people often make in the U.S. is failing to respond to invitations. The American custom is to provide a timely response to the host after receiving an invitation, regardless of whether you plan to attend. If you are unsure, you should inform the host that you are not yet certain and provide a time by which you will be able to confirm. Conversely, some Chinese people do not respond to invitations and then simply show up on the day of the event, sometimes even bringing extra people, which catches the host off guard.
