U.S. Investment Immigration focus on U.S. Education trends: Dr. Pielsa, a famous American sex therapist, has encountered many parents who feel confused about sex education. He says that the rules for effective love and sex education are actually very simple, and he has listed the following rules:
1. Sex education does not have to be a same-gender matter
When a child has questions about sex, if it is a boy, the mother might say: "Go talk to your father." This old-fashioned concept is completely unnecessary. As long as parents have a correct understanding of sex, a mother can talk to her son, and a father can talk to his daughter. In fact, it is the best arrangement for both parents to educate their children about sex together, because when discussing sex and love, parents are the closest models of loving and being loved.
2. Never have a formal "talk about sex"
Talking about sex in a solemn manner is destined to fail. You should find opportunities to talk more about issues related to sex. It is not difficult to find dozens of sex-related topics every day from TV programs, movies, news in newspapers, and articles in magazines.
Dr. Pielsa reminds us that when implementing "opportunity education," it is important to be direct and to the point, rather than giving long-winded lectures.
3. Sex and love education should first emphasize "what can be done"
Do not keep emphasizing "what cannot be done" in front of the child. If parents provide a list of what cannot be done regarding sexual behavior, the child may instead feel, "That sounds interesting, why don't I give it a try?" When you state what can be done (such as holding hands, or hugging and kissing), you must also state the following two things that cannot be done: "No sexual activity before marriage" and "Never hurt another person."
4. Both parents should educate simultaneously
The greatest danger in sex and love education is when parents have disagreements regarding sexual morality and sexual ideology. Be aware that children are often "experts" at exploiting their parents' differing opinions. They always find ways to get support from either their father or mother for what they want to do or cannot do. If the husband and wife do not agree, it is difficult for the child to receive a good education.
5. Sex and love education is not a one-time event
Do not expect that one session of sex education will make a child immune for life, just as repeatedly asking a child to tidy their room does not keep the room clean; the principle is the same. However, through the constant "nagging" of their parents, children will at least understand that their parents value cleanliness. Similarly, they can also learn what their parents value through repeated sex education.
