Immigration is not only a major change in one's life path, but also a transformative baptism for every man. For the vast majority of wives, the greatest benefit of immigrating overseas is that their husbands finally have the opportunity to leave behind the many temptations of the mainland, becoming more docile, honest, and diligent than before. In short, they become more subdued and appear more grounded. Although this change may not be a particularly joyful experience for those men, in the face of the overall 'pressure' of the new environment, they have no choice but to comply.
According to a rough estimate, male immigrants from the mainland will generally undergo eight major changes within three to five years that make their wives beam with joy.
The chauvinistic attitude disappears.
Those who used to love giving their wives a cold shoulder back on the mainland dare not do so after immigrating, because you are no longer on familiar ground, and your original connections are gone; the starting line for both husband and wife is suddenly leveled. Once your social status is equal, if you continue to put on airs or pull a long face, you will inevitably be asking for trouble. With no opportunity to act arrogantly at home, you have no choice but to take it easy, suppressing your former 'macho' persona until it slowly evaporates.
The bureaucratic air is mostly worn away.
Many men held some official position in government agencies, schools, or power departments on the mainland before immigrating. The bureaucratic air they carried with them suffers from severe culture shock overseas. There is basically no room for it to manifest, not even for an occasional opportunity. Many people have to take up manual labor to make a living, working side-by-side with fellow workers for years. Over time, the vanity is washed away, and they are finally tempered into members of the working-class family. The bureaucratic air is gone, replaced by a touch of down-to-earth simplicity.
Even the wealthiest know how to be modest.
Mainland tycoons have gradually come to understand: the wealthy from all over the world live in good places like Vancouver. You might run into two multi-millionaires just by going to the restroom. Therefore, whether you are the richest person in a certain part of China or an industry expert from the mainland, you must learn to take it easy. Flaunting wealth is considered vulgar, and the old mainland tactics don't work here. There are too many people here who can outdo you; you really have to keep a low profile.
There are no more opportunities for wining and dining.
You can no longer benefit from public-funded consumption, and there is no need to treat people to dinner to get things done. Unless you have money to burn and want to set up a table for one at a restaurant, the opportunities for grand banquets for all men after immigration have decreased by ninety percent.
All ties with 'soulmates' back on the mainland are lost.
Men who think highly of themselves usually have a few women with whom they have ambiguous relationships, whether platonic or otherwise. After moving overseas, these relationships all fall apart. Although they may initially continue to pour out their hearts via WeChat, Fetion, QQ, or email, the vast ocean creates a barrier, and the relationship becomes exhausted by the distance, eventually withering away.
They learn to feel inferior in front of foreign beauties.
Many people think that men have the opportunity to enjoy some 'exotic romance' after going overseas. This is not entirely false, but at most, it means spending a few dollars to watch a risqué show in some adult-only venue. In real life, due to constraints in language, social interaction, and circles, the opportunities for frequent or intimate contact with foreign women are truly limited. In particular, foreign women are often tall and imposing, which can be intimidating, and with the language barrier, most men can only sigh in frustration.
Various hobbies are mostly cut back.
Hobbies cultivated on the mainland, such as playing mahjong, cards, chatting, and heavy drinking, become increasingly luxurious. It is often hard to find a fourth player for cards, and it is difficult to find an audience for chatting. As for drinking, not to mention that alcohol in Vancouver is particularly expensive, the key is that there are not many people to drink heavily with you. If you always drink alone, you are prone to depression. Many old drinkers start to drink less or stop drinking altogether after immigrating.
They learn to do household chores themselves.
Even if your DIY skills were poor before, after immigrating, men are forced to learn carpentry, electrical work, plumbing, renovation, and gardening. Within a few years, many people see their skills improve by leaps and bounds, quickly becoming experts and excellent laborers for household chores.
To transform a man, immigration is the best method, bar none.